Early marriage is becoming a norm among our Indian teenagers.Statistics shows that 43% of our

Indian community are getting married earlier than other races. This is time in depth discussion in this serious issue.
There are two types of teenage marriages – one with parents’ permission and another without.
With parents’ permissionWhen there is a case of our student getting pregnant while in school, the community resorts into getting them to either abort the baby or marry the man responsible. This is also true among school-dropouts and those who just completed their studies. Why do our students fell in this trap?
Some parents are also to be blamed for pushing their teenage children especially the daughters to get married early, supposedly to make sure that they are alive to see the wedding of their children. However, they failed to realize that the daughters may have a brighter future on their own – maybe getting a good education and career if left on their own.
Without parents’ permissionMostly it will be case of runaway teens, a scenario that seems to be pretty common in the community. Influenced by their boyfriends and in some cases, girlfriends, they took off from home, get married in secluded temple, have kids and then come back home, hoping that their parents will forget and forgive. Most of them do not register their marriage citing the complication involved in it, especially in teen marriages. Customary marriage is seen as an ideal alternative.
However, there is a risk of such marriages to turn ugly. Once the romance withered off, some men just leave their teen wife or push them into vice. Although we are not proposing that every runaway teen will end up in the street, such cases do occur. These young girls, unable to go back to their own family resorts stays for years in sex trade.
True incidentsIncident #1In Selangor, a girl who ran away with her boyfriend when she was only 18, only to be found again by her parents few days later. She was then married off to a man of the family’s choice in hush hush manner. Now, at the age of 18, she is taking care of her new husband who has a stall in pasar malam besides tending to her in-law family which consists of about 7 members.
Can a young girl like her able to shoulder such heavy responsibility? How her future is going to be? Will it be a wise move if the parents actually sat and talked to her boyfriend and asked them to wait instead?
Incident #2In Johor, a 20 year old girl ran away with her boyfriend, only to be sold to prostitution for RM3000. Although her family tried every means to get in touch with her back, they failed. All they got back was a phone call from her requesting them not to look for her anymore.
While we have to agree that not every teenager who got married early ended up in misery, not everyone tend to live the life they dreamed of. There are more stories to be unearthed for sure and if you have details of any such case, please come forward and share it with us. We have the social responsibility to show the right path to our teens and we want to do just that.
Does Tamil cinema have a part in influencing our teens to run away from home?
Do most parents think that a daughter should be married off earlier?
How could we overcome this problem?
Are seminars, forums and counseling sessions enough to motivate our students?